Awake Love Rules

AWAKE LOVE GROUP PARTICIPATION RULES

Awake Love offered for free – nothing is asked from participants – except that participants accept and follow the rules.

***  There are broad rules, and for more than 4 years there has never been a single incident other than a loving gathering.  ***

Leadership role and qualifications

The role of the leader is to attempt to create a safe place.  The leader will protect group members by enforcing the rules.  This is for the emotional benefit of group members and to create a safe environment to share and grow.

The leader is not a therapist, but has participated in over 10 years of individual therapy, and as of 2013 is regularly mentored by (and continues personal therapy with) a Washington state certified Psychotherapist educated at Harvard and practicing for over 10 years in Washington state (Pamela Sherbrooke).  The leader also hosts ACL meetings in Bellevue and at Monroe Country Correctional facility with guidance from Mavis Tsai, Ph.D., co-creator of Functional Analytic Psychotherapy (FAP).

Rules

During the meetings, and to encourage individual growth, the leader is the only group member permitted to interrupt a member who is sharing.  This is purely for the emotional protection or growth of each and every group member.  The leader may interrupt for various reasons … all for the purpose of Love.

— Leadership interruption can be valuable by communicating to a person breaking a rule that what they are doing may be hurtful in a way they may not be aware.

— Leadership interruption can also be very valuable in keeping a person on track for the sake of expediency

— Or, Leadership interruption can be used to initiate thought provoking ideas to the speaker that may benefit their personal growth path.

The leader shall facilitate and organize the meetings.

The leader may from time to time request volunteer assistance.

The leader is absolutely forbidden from having ANY romantic relationship with ANY participant.

The role of the group leader includes using training to facilitate beneficial therapeutic experiences in the group setting. This may include sharing observations, providing feedback and support, creating a safe atmosphere, discussing group dynamics, and finding a balance so all members have the time to participate. You are encouraged to share your reactions about the group leader’s role in the group, or to request assistance during the group sessions.

The leader is required to provide the contact information of their therapist to participants upon request.  If he will not, and you ever feel scared or uncomfortable during or after a meeting, simply call 911.

Participant rules

1. Confidentiality*

Anything said between any two or more group members at any time during a group meeting is part of the group and is confidential. Participants understand that everything said in group is confidential. Participants agree to keep confidential the names of other members of the group and what is said in the group.

Participants understand that there is an exception to this confidentiality which applies to the group leader. If the group leader believes that someone is in danger, the leader* has an obligation to take action in order to keep everyone safe.

This is the ONLY reason for group information to be shared.  This follows the legal model of professional Psychotherapy.

*Any member who feels unsafe or threatened should immediately call 911…there is nothing that should be kept private if one’s safety is threatened, or if sexually provocative, or physically threatening statements are made.

Participants understand that if they violate this confidentiality they could be asked to leave.

2. Right to Privacy (The Stop Rule)

No group member is ever required to answer any question/s — EVER, or to participate in any activity, or to talk about anything. If Participants are asked questions or asked to participate in an activity Participants have the right to remain silent or simply say no — or leave at any time.  Participants agree that they will never pressure other group members to participate in any discussion or activity after the member has passed or refused.  This is important as a group member.*

Participants may benefit more from group the more they are able to take risks in sharing and participating.

*Many people have lived in controlling situations.  Learning to say no is very important.

*Many people have been forced into silence.  Learning to speak what one feels is very important as well.

3. Feedback

It is the leader’s function to ask members if they would like feedback – either from the leader or from the group.  Participants agree that they will ONLY offer feedback to other group members IF they specifically request feedback.

Feedback shall only ever be given in a loving way – never with anger, sarcasm, or derision.

4. Violence or intimidation

Violence or intimidation toward other group members is absolutely not tolerated — no exceptions whatsoever.

Weapons of ANY kind are absolutely forbidden at ANY Awake Love meeting.  Violation of this rule shall result in the member being suspended for 1 year — no exceptions whatsoever.

5. Alcohol and Other Drugs

Group members cannot participate in the group under the influence of alcohol or any other drugs (other than prescription medicine). Participants understand that if the leader believes that they are under the influence of alcohol or other drugs, they will be asked to leave the group for that day only.

This group shall use the 3 strike rule.  3 abuses of this rule and that member will be asked to leave the group for 6 months.

Members utilizing prescription drugs that may affect their mood shall discuss this with the leader privately.

6. Group Relationships

Dating among group members is discouraged.  If it happens, just be honest about it.  Secrets are very destructive.

7. Gossip

Gossip and secret grudges can be very destructive in a group. If there’s an issue, please bring it up with the leader in person after the meeting, or via email or phone.

8. Put Feelings into Words Not Actions

Strong emotions often arise in group therapy.  Members are encouraged to express themselves with their words rather than through physical actions (e.g. hug). All members react differently to physical touch, so expressing yourself with words is encouraged.  If you feel a strong urge to communicate with hugs (for example), members shall ask for and receive permission before expressing physically.

AGREEMENT

By attending, Participants agree that they have read the procedures and guidelines for the group and agree to be bound by them.

Typical Group Schedule

  1. Rules review (for new members)
  2. Introduction / Check-in
  3. Today’s subject
  4. Individual group input  – each member is allotted time (whether they use it or not
  5. Conclusion
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